'I have a right to not date trans women.' bisexual women, infertile women, left- handed women, and women who exceed the 'one-drop rule'. Billie Lee from Vanderpump Rules talks about dating as a transgender woman, what she wants from cis partners, and learning to love herself. Dating as a trans woman (online or in person) often means an exhausting stream of inappropriate, fetishizing, dehumanizing, and sometimes.
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DO ask us about our family life, not what I do in bed, yet. Others may have a very liberal background and be excited to share stories about her people with you. These are the questions that will actually help you get to know someone at their core, and it shows that you are actually interested.
Do NOT ask about our surgeries. Our body is none of your business, and vise versa. DO ask about our hobbies, that special quirk that makes our soul happy. I love to bar hop with my friends, chill outdoors, brunch all day and decorate my house. I could talk about those things for days! None of your business. And why do you want to know? Do you even remember my last name? Why do you feel entitled to know my LAST last name? DO ask what our goals for the future are. Many girls have big dreams and will stop at nothing to achieve them.
Some will go on from being registered nurses to medical doctors, others from sales associates to store managers at Gucci. It is NOT a compliment. We are not trying to fool anybody or be anything that we feel we are not. This is who we are.
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DO compliment our general appearance as transgender women. Again, NONE of your business. How many girls did you sleep with for free while you were in that fraternity in college? Does that make you better because this girl may have been paid for it? Also, not all of us have gone down that route. Trans women are generally much taller than their cisgender peers.
Unlike high fashion models, whose height often accentuates their frail frames, the height of trans women speaks only of excellence, and fortitude. It is a height that comes from an unrelenting and undaunted pursuit of freedom and justice.
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Trans women shine out, like a beacon of this freedom and justice, over the forces that seek to see them bent or broken.
After all, there are some — not many, but some — statuesque cis women.
For example, you might take a moment to look at the legs of the women around you. Trans women have incredibly long legs. Some say this is due to the effects of testosterone. However, those who have been around for a while know that this is not the case.
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The truth is that trans women have powerful, muscular legs because they carry with them a near immeasurable amount of self-confidence every day — self-confidence that would weigh your average cis woman down.
The legs of trans women are not all harsh angles and strength. They are supple, and smooth, and graceful. Shoulders But of course, these sorts of powerful, beautiful legs are not entirely unique to trans women.
Trans women have broad, elegant shoulders. You know those power-shoulders women often talk about wanting? Backs, which I must say, are likely to be straight, and which are rarely hunched over.
Face Again, these traits can often be found in some lucky cisgender women as well, so after looking at shoulders, you must move on to looking at the faces of the women around you. The faces of trans women are often different from their cis peers in a variety of ways.
For example, trans and cis chins are often different. The chins of trans women are usually slightly larger than those of cis women.